WHY WE PICKED IT
So, we got to this book club and the next read was ‘stay with me’ by Ayobami Adebayo an African theme book and we hadn’t read such kind of book since high school you know the ‘the river between’,’river and the source’ and a couple others.We were a little hesitant but what choice did we have since it was the next book discussion.The moment we started this read for those who know you know, it’s the kind of book that keeps you glued, also the title ‘stay with me’ kept us wondering who exactly was supposed to stay in the book.
WHAT IT’S ABOUT
First of all, the book is absolutely intense, compulsively readable, you don’t wanna leave it till you know how the story ends
Ayobami is taking us to the Nigerian set up between the 80s and the 2000s.
this is where we meet a young couple (Akin and Yejide) who are purely in love while they were in uni got married and swore to each other to a monogamous marriage but, there are twists along the way.Four years down the line without a child raises an eyebrow especially to the in-laws and as it is any childless couple the woman is always the problem.We all know how in-laws are especially in an African setting are, they brought ‘potential’ second wives to bear children with Akin little did they know *SPOILER ALERT* Akin and Yejide needed a man to bear a child ,yes a man worst part is Yejide had no idea about this…*the twists in this book*
”There are things even love can’t do.Before I got married I believed love could do anything, if its a burden and its too much, as it stays for long even love bends, cracks, and comes close to breaking and some times it does break.But even when it’s in a thousand pieces around your feet that does not mean it’s no longer love” Akin
this deep quote from Akin comes along after he had to make a messy decision on who would get Yejide pregnant to protect her from all the pressure of the in laws and to protect himself from his wife and family since he was the infertile one , and being the first born son there was pressure for him to bear children
WHAT WE GOT
Stay with me shows us a typical African man would never shed his ego to admit certain things that made him feel less of a man especially from the society,basically how akin is portrayed in the book he goes through a looong way to keep his infertility issue a secret even from his own wife
WHAT MADE US MAD/FRUSTRATED
*The feminism in us comes in *haha*…… how on earth would Akin just sit down and let Yejide beat herself since she went all the way to the ”mountain of the jaw droppings miracles” and she believed she had gotten pregnant which she hadn’t ,at some point this made us think as readers that Yejide was the problem, we feel at some point Akin should have man up,but again we wouldn’t be having a story would we?-
*The fact that yejide kept on sleeping with Dotun (Akin’s brother) isn’t that an abomination? despite her being described as naive again we feel Yejide would have talked to Akin,because helloo??marriage?partnership?love of your life?but again the infertility had caused a huge gap between Akin and Yejide
WHY WE LIKED IT
Yes Akin was hiding his problem but come to think of it, it was all love for Yejide even when he asked Dotun to sleep with his wife it was to ease the social pressure,and for the society to finally see that Yejide would bear a child since all eyes were on her
the flow of the book was also something,the moment you start the story you never want to stop.
WHY YOU HAVE TO GET IT
~Stay with me is a story that hopes constantly for a miracle,despite the insistence of hardship and loss
~We’ve never enjoyed an African based book like we did on this one,stay with me makes it to our reread list this year also how Ayobami delivered the story is indescribable too amazing finishing the book in one or two sittings.You need to get it guys its EVERYONE’S READ and A MUST READ even though there are a lot of spoilers in this review
ABOUT THE AUTHOR;
Ayobami Adebayo is a nigerian author of the novel stay me with me.shes been a writer of short stories which have appeared in various magazines.she was highly recommended in the 2009 common wealth short writing competition,her first book was shortlisted for the baileys prize for women’s fiction,which is STAY WITH ME she was born in Lagos Nigeria 1988